Are You Silencing Pieces of Your Story?

Women live through and overcome unspeakable things—workplace discrimination, violence, poverty, mental illness. We all have a story. What I want to know is: what part of your story are you not talking about?

Woman Speak Up

As women, we are so very used to keeping the peace and thinking about everyone else before ourselves. Too often we are willing to suppress those deep, dark details of our stories to protect our families and even the very people who have hurt us.

We’re afraid that standing in our truth and fully owning up to our experiences will damage the people around us. But at what expense are we damaging ourselves?

Telling our stories is our lifeline—whether it’s with a trusted friend, a 12-step group, or an online forum. It’s how we know the unspeakable things in our lives are really happening.

When you tell your story to another human, she can say “That’s not okay!” or “Here’s how I got through.”

If you speak it, you have to face it. And you know what? You have the power to do it.

I invite you to take the first step by sharing your story anonymously here on See what other readers have submitted in Herstories, our community story bank, and consider using these prompts to help get you started:

  1. What happened?
  2. What do you know now that you wish you knew then?
  3. What would you tell other women going through a similar transition?
  4. What helped you through the pain? A book? A person? An activity? Time?
  5. What’s the biggest challenge you’re working through right now?
  6. What are you most proud of?
  7. What is something good that has come from your trauma or transition?

Speak up here. What’s your story?

This is a totally anonymous submission form. We ask that you not reveal the identity of yourself or anyone else in your story. Anonymity is intended to maximize our freedom of expression and speech in this public space.

By submitting your story here on, you are donating your words to our story-telling community. As the story bank grows, we will share the wealth by publishing them in whole or in part online and possibly in print publications. Submissions may be edited for length and grammar and will not be materially changed in any way. Please review and accept the complete Terms and Conditions of Website Use and Privacy Policy before submitting your story.


Any information revealed on about people whose lives have intersected with my own is shared in the spirit of helping myself and others to connect and heal. I recognize that their memories of the events described on this site are different than my own. This site is not intended to hurt anyone. I regret any unintentional harm resulting from the publishing of my stories and others on
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